Monthly Archives: January 2013



Talvi has been giving us little social smiles for about a week now. (A social smile is a smile directed at another person–as opposed to what we’re calling “anti-social smiles,” which are “smiles” Talvi does when she’s, um, well, you can guess.)

Anyway, the smiles are heart-meltingly cute. But they’ve been fleeting and by the time we grab a camera, they’re gone. Until today. I finally caught her with a big grin on her face.  It took three out-of-focus exposures before I nailed it, but there’s no question what’s going on. (I included the out-of-focus shots so you can see the progression.)

Baby Family Travel

Visiting the great-grandparents

Last week, we took our longest trip yet with Talvi, driving out to Long Island to visit her great-grandparents. They were wonderful hosts and Talvi was quite well-behaved, both in the car and at their house. She’s so lucky to have great-grandparents and they absolutely adore her, so this will undoubtedly be the first of many trips out to see them.


A few days late

Talvi celebrated her one-month birthday on Saturday. She asked for cake. We told her she was still too young.

One Month


From chin to chins

Talvi has put in some serious work on her pudge stores this week. The cheeks are filling out and she has a solid second chin going now. In the last eight days she has gained one pound. To put that in perspective, it is the equivalent of me gaining 19 pounds in eight days. Yikes. Funny thing is, in the last two days she has majorly upped her feeding frequency – classic sign of an upcoming baby growth spurt. So then I wonder, what do we call this last week?


A Day in the Life

If you’re sitting there wondering, “What is the day of a 4-week old like?,” well, you’ve come to the right place.

We actually have a ridiculously detailed log of everything Talvi’s been up to (think minute-by-minute) thanks to an iPhone app called Baby Connect that let’s us keep track of how much she’s sleeping, how many diapers she’s gone through, which side she nursed on last, and just about everything else you could quantify about her. But don’t worry, I won’t subject you, dear reader, to that (although it does make pretty charts).

Instead, here’s a rough picture of what Tiny T’s average day looks like:

7:30 a.m. – Wake up in her co-sleeper (a little sidecar to our bed my dad built for her)

Eat breakfast and get her diaper changed. Have some active awake time, usually spent staring at mom while dad walks Montie.

9:00 a.m. – Fall asleep for nap #1, probably in her bouncy chair on the couch

11:00 a.m. – Wake up hungry, eat first lunch. Get her diaper changed. Hang out for a bit.

Noon – Get strapped into her Ergo on mom and take Montie for a walk (if it’s not too cold). Fall asleep in the Ergo.

12:30 p.m. – Wake up as she’s transitioning out of the Ergo because she’s wet. Get a new diaper. Fall back asleep for nap #2.

1:30 p.m. – Wake up hungry. Eat second lunch, diaper change, do some tummy time.

3 p.m. – Fall back asleep in her co-sleeper for nap #3

4 p.m. – Wake up. Eat first dinner. Diaper change and then sit in her bouncy chair.

5:30 p.m. – Fall asleep for nap #4

7:30 p.m. – Wake up and eat second dinner. Diaper change. Get a bath.

9 p.m. – Nap #5

11 p.m. – Last feed before bed, new diaper, get swaddled.

Midnight – Fall asleep.

3:30 – Wake up and snack. Diaper change. Hopefully fall back asleep by 4:30.

Then do it all again.

Put more succinctly, her day is about 15 hours sleeping, 2.5 hours eating, 1 hour getting her diaper changed, and 5.5 hours awake time, in a reasonably predictable routine of Eat, Activity (Diaper, Active Awake time), Sleep. It’s what the baby whisperer calls EASY, and it actually works.



Baby Brooklyn

Sunday Brunch

Brunch is the most important meal of the week in Brooklyn, and Phil and Julia were nice enough to invite us over to eat it with them today. It gave Talvi a chance to try out her stroller for the first time and us a chance to eat delicious frittata and salad.



Waking up is hard to do


Scream Sneeze

When Talvi sneezes, she usually does a few in a row. And occasionally, on the third or fourth, rather than sneezing, she kind of yells. Does the whole sneeze wind-up thing. But then totally forgets to sneeze and just gives a shout instead.

I’ll have to get it on video, cause it’s kind of the cutest thing ever.


Week, the third

Talvi’s third week on earth saw lots of new visitors (and some old ones, too). Orin, Heidi, both Aunties (repeatedly), the Weishaus/Mintz grandparents, and the whole Zipkin clan (including David, who was visiting for Judi’s birthday) stopped by. Talvi also got visits, unexpectedly, from her G-Pops, who shortly after returning to Bend was called back to New York by the Red Cross to do Sandy relief work.


Baby Musings

Some Observations

First, about Talvi:

  • She has big feet; long, elegant fingers; and very dark eyes.
  • She can wrinkle her forehead with the best of them.
  • She’s certainly not the world’s easiest baby, but she’s also far from its hardest (and yes, I know this could change at any time, and that I’m tempting fate by writing it).
  • When she cries, it’s usually because something is wrong. We don’t always know what that something is, but so far she doesn’t generally cry for no particular reason.
  • Like the books say, she is partial to being swaddled, having you shoosh in her ear, swinging, and sucking on things. So far at least, she’s less enthralled with being on her side or stomach.
  • Her magic “stop crying” switch is rushing water. I accidentally discovered that if you hold her next to a running faucet, she immediately stops crying no matter how upset she is. 100% success rate so far, but I’m trying to only pull it out for emergencies.

Then, about parenthood:

  • It’s hugely time-consuming. (Shocker, I know.)
  • It’s much easier when it’s two-on-one, and both parents aren’t working.
  • The very idea of twins seems impossible. Single parenthood even more so.
  • Motherhood is way harder than fatherhood. Mothers have all the same stresses as fathers, plus they’re the baby’s only source of food. That’s a BIG difference. My middle-of-the-night task (changing diapers) takes 5 minutes and is painless. Neither of those things can be said for Kesa’s (feeding the baby).
  • My pinky will gladly testify to the fact that babies suck REALLY hard.
  • Putting your baby to sleep successfully is very gratifying. For something that will last 3 hours, at most, it gives an incredibly profound sense accomplishment.
  • Singing your baby to sleep, especially, is kind of amazing.
  • When your baby is on the changing table–diaper off–and you hear something starting to happen, your natural instinct is to drop the baby’s legs and get out of there. This is NOT the correct response. The correct response is to block and cover. But it takes some practice to overcome your instincts.
  • Everybody says you’re not supposed to compare having a baby to having a dog. And they’re right–having a baby is way harder and way more time-consuming than having a dog. But now that I’m a parent, I feel justified in pointing out that there are real similarities.
    • Both involve a new being that you’ve brought into your family that is entirely dependent on you for survival.
    • Both require you to figure out how to communicate in a new, entirely non-verbal, but fully-formed language.
    • Consistency and discipline are critical to both, as is figuring out how to incorporate flexibility and leniency.
    • No matter how many books you read about parenting/dog-owning, your being is an individual with his or her own needs, skills, and challenges.
    • And of course, both involve lots of poop. :-)